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There is no claim that ageing unpluggged promises to extend life, but anyone who embraces just a tiny part of the process will be bound to notice lower stress levels and increased confidence.
Clients have approached my clinic here in Leatherhead because they have lost confidence as they have aged. Perhaps they have had a fall or an illness and this has made them wary of going out or trying new ventures.
Improved health care means that we need to plan ahead for the longest and best part of our lives. What is sometimes known as the third age. The best way to describe ageing unplugged is life coaching for the older person to help them enjoy a happier, healthier and more active life.
Throughout history there are many people who have achieved their ambitions later in life. Mary Wesley published her first adult novel when she was 71 and went on to write the ‘Camomile Lawn’ which became a major TV series. Most of us will have heard of Grandma Moses and only recently an 84 year old completed their first London marathon.
What is the worst thing about getting older is it regret, anger or even grief for the loss of youth. Perhaps it is loneliness or social isolation, the loss of old friends through illness or death.
Does the thought of getting older cause you stress or anxiety unfortunately it is a scientific fact that we will all age. This programme can teach you ways of managing that stress and anxiety in every-day life.
We see creating goals as something for a young person but if we stop creating goals then life just seems to stretch endlessly ahead. A positive mental attitude is all about finding answers and planning ahead. Plan as if you are going to live to be 110. This programme helps you to do that.
Stop telling yourself you can’t and find out how you can there is no guarantee that you will write a best-seller that becomes a hit TV series as Mary Wesley did, or run the London Marathon but there is not reason why you why you cannot try.
Ageing unplugged helps you find that positive mental attitude so you are never again tempted to say I am too old to do that.
Please get in touch to find out more.
Has you diet been destroyed by the abundance of Easter Eggs? Do you feel that everything is out to sabotage your weight loss.
Here at my Leatherhead Hypnotherapy Clinic many of my weight loss clients feel this way. I always explain to them that losing weight with hypnotherapy is not about going on a diet and never eating a chocolate or cake again. This type of diet nearly always fails because we will crave the things that are forbidden.
Losing weight with hypnotherapy is about life style changes. A lot of clients come to see me in Leatherhead because they want to lose weight for a special occasion or a holiday. I always ask them what are you going to do when the holiday is over. The choice is a crash diet to lose weight for a few weeks or a change in the way they think about food and to lose weight for life.
No food is bad food. It is the quantity of food that is important. Small portions are the key.
It is all too easy to pile our plates with pasta or eat extra slices of bread. Eating more slowly and savouring the flavour leads to our eating less.
To eat a chocolate and to enjoy it is not going to make anyone gain weight. Eating a whole box of chocolates in one sitting highlights an unhealthy attitude to food. Binge eating can be as bad for your health as binge drinking.
Eating and enjoying food is important. Small portions of good quality tasty food are far more enjoyable than mountains of junk food; and better not just for our weight but also for our long-term health.
Summer is coming. Start to explore tasty alternatives to junk food. Salads, fruit, berries are all coming into the shops in abundance soon and we can re-educate our taste buds to help us eat healthily for rest of our lives.
Contact me to find out how hypnotherapy can help you reach your weight loss targets.
Anxiety can affect people in different ways.
Here at my Leatherhead hypnotherapy clinic recently I had a client whose anxiety had become so overwhelming that he couldn’t travel outside of a half-mile radius of his home.
This was affecting not only his own life but also the life of his partner and their child. Going out for the day or even a trip to the park caused a major anxiety attack resulting in the client avoiding more and more things. This avoidance then increased his anxiety.
Using hypnosis to strengthen his confidence and then setting small goals each week eventually he was able to learn coping mechanisms and begin to enjoy his life again.
Anxiety can be triggered by events in our lives and then our thoughts about those events develop until we begin to avoid situations where we believe there could be a problem.
Modern day life is very busy and stressful and anxiety can become an increasingly normal part of people’s lives. This can lead to worrying internal thoughts like ‘What might happen?’ ‘Can I handle it?’ ‘What if something goes wrong?’
Another client lived in a road where she was having difficulty parking near her house. Every time she left home in her car she became worried and anxious about finding a parking space on her return. This eventually lead to her having panic attacks about finding a place to park. Using hypnosis this worry could be reduced and she learned to accept that sometimes parking a little way away from her front door was not the problem she had created in her mind.
Anxiety is often seen as the anticipation of a future problem and techniques like hypnotherapy and mindfulness can help clients to deal with everyday life more easily.
Contact me to find out how hypnotherapy can help you.
March 12th is National Stop Smoking Day. Many of the clients who come for hypnotherapy to stop smoking here in Leatherhead have given up smoking many times. The comedian Dave Allen said, ‘Stopping smoking is easy. I do it every day’.
Smoking is a habit as much as it’s an addiction. Nicotine is addictive, but because it is such a fast acting drug the cravings can be dealt with quite quickly. The habit however, is harder to deal with.
Smoking wraps itself around all the things we do in life. For example when we have a coffee we will have a cigarette with that. When we are trying to stop smoking it is the habit part of our mind that is nagging us to have a cigarette with the coffee.
Another example is how we use cigarettes as a reward ‘when I have finished this job or task I will have a cigarette’. We use cigarettes to motivate ourselves, ‘I will have this cigarette and then I will do that job I have been putting off’.
All of these behaviours and many others make stopping smoking hard. Smoking is almost our friend and companion. Clients worry about how they will cope without the crutch of a cigarette to lean on.
In hypnotherapy we reprogram that habit part of the brain and help it to find a new habit that is more advantageous to the smoker.
The subconscious has always thought that giving up smoking would be a good idea and our conscious mind is fully aware of the dangers posed by smoking.
Make 2019 the year you stop smoking for good. Book an appointment now and one treatment may be all that you need.
Are you making the same resolutions again this year – lose weight, get fit, stop smoking, cut down on alcohol etc? By the middle of January have you given up giving up?
When life kicks in, the good intentions fly out of the window. Do the commute to work in the cold, the daily school run, the trip to the supermarket combine with the wind and rain see you opening the wine or heading for the chocolate once again?
Here at Leatherhead hypnotherapy many clients want to change their lives. They are not happy with their weight, their health even their job and they are looking for the motivation to change.
One of the mistakes we all make when we do our New Year resolutions is the shopping list. ‘I will stop smoking, drinking, lose weight, go to the gym’ and then when we fail at one resolution we give them all up.
The best way to achieve change is baby steps. Try cutting out one thing at a time. For example giving up the chocolate biscuit with morning coffee is not telling your subconscious you can never have a chocolate biscuit again, it is sending the message that you are in control over when you eat the biscuit.
If we try to deny ourselves too much at once we rebel and then we give up giving up. By taking one step at a time, make one New Year resolution that you can keep then in three month’s time the success of that step will help you take another. The feeling that you have achieved something even if it is only the habit of those morning chocolate biscuits will encourage you to try something else.
You can make a resolution any day of the year because every day is the start of a new year, maybe Big Ben doesn’t chime on the 10th February for example but if you join the gym on that date and then stay with it for the next 12 months that was a new year resolution.
So on January 1st take one step in the right direction towards reaching your goal and after six weeks (because this is how long it takes to form a new habit) then think about the next goal.
If you do want to stop smoking, lose weight or cut back on your drinking then don’t forget hypnotherapy can help to reprogram your subconscious mind.
Contact me today to see how Hypnotherapy can help you achieve your 2019 goals.
Some clients come to my hypnotherapy clinic in Leatherhead because they have repeatedly failed their driving test. Learning to drive is important in today’s society and many young people start to learn as soon as they reach the age of 17.
Failing the driving test first time is acceptable. Many learner drivers almost see their first test as a practice. If they fail the second time then they become more anxious but continual fails cause anxiety and a change in their thinking.
Each new test is viewed with dread and their thoughts become not whether they will pass this time or I can do this but instead they think ‘Please don’t let me fail again.’ Their belief system eventually becomes so overwhelmed with the thought that they can no longer visualise passing their test. Sometimes this leads to them giving up all together.
When the client is older they find it even harder to pass their test and the statistics bear this out. One client I had here in Leatherhead was taking her test for the first time at age 45. She came to me saying ‘I can only do this once.’ Fortunately with a good driving instructor and hypnotherapy to reinforce her confidence she did pass first time.
If a client has failed a number of tests then in hypnosis we rewind those negative events and put positive feelings in place. We also rehearse the driving test in hypnosis helping them to see and believe in positive outcomes.
Helping the client to believe that they can pass their test is very successful and a number of clients have passed their test after 4 or 5 failures. Like many things in life, what we believe, we can achieve.
It is many years since I took my driving test I still remember it as one of the most nerve-wracking things I have ever done. I also remember the feeling of elation I felt when I passed.
Get in touch to find out how hypnotherapy can give you confidence for your test.
Are you on your third weight loss diet of the year? The post holiday diet, a determined effort to lose the weight you have gained over the summer when despite your good intentions to eat only healthy salad, the ice creams and treats on days out and picnics have added extra pound.
At Leatherhead hypnotherapy we help people to lose weight without making everything a sin. After all if you cut out all the food that makes us happy and live on lettuce and boiled cabbage then life becomes very tedious, and we are more likely to overdo it when faced with so called happy foods like cakes and chocolate.
In hypnosis we learn to eat mindfully enjoying all of our food instead of eating in secret, or too fast before anyone notices what we are doing. We are allowed to enjoy our food and if we eat slowly and with pleasure, ‘savour the flavour’ instead of bolting our food down we eat less.
Food is to be enjoyed, eating slowly and by listening to the signal from our brain that we are full helps us to stop overeating. A meal is not a race to the finish, a meal is to be enjoyed.
So many people consider various foods are a sin that when they eat a chocolate or a biscuit they immediately feel guilty. This often leads them to finish the packet to get the guilty food out of the way. Of course the shops are open tomorrow to buy more. If we slow down make our food more enjoyable, think about what we are eating we are more able to avoid junk food and we will eat less food in the end. Food is to be enjoyed and by turning our eating into an enjoyable occasion we will eat less and eventually weigh less.
Enjoy your food eat more slowly eat the best quality food you can afford, and you will gradually lose weight and form new eating habits
There has been much written about mindfulness and it can appear to be quite difficult to apply to our everyday lives. Often it gets confused with meditation and people think they have to set aside time every day to be mindful.
Mindfulness actually means paying attention in a particular way. It means focusing on what we are doing and not worrying about the past or future. Mindfulness doesn’t conflict with any beliefs or traditions, whether religious, cultural or scientific.
We might go out into the garden and think the flowerbeds need weeding or the grass needs cutting. A young child will call out “Hey, I’ve found a caterpillar”. We don’t take time to notice the roses in bloom or the daisies turning their heads to the sun in that over long lawn.
Mindfulness is simply noticing what we don’t normally notice because we are so busy with our lives. Being mindful helps to focus our attention, and when we chose what we focus on then we are living mindfully.
Mindfulness can relate to our everyday lives. When we are washing dishes we are often thinking about what other tasks we have to do, perhaps even being cross or annoyed at the everyday task. But if this becomes a mindful activity we begin to notice the water temperature, the texture of the bubbles, even the rainbows in the soap bubbles before they pop. We notice the sounds the water makes as we move the cups and plates around. We begin to notice many things that normally pass us by.
Mindful walking brings many pleasures. Rather than worrying about the past or the future for a short time we can look around and notice what we see and hear – flowers in front gardens, moss in the cracks of the pavement, the changing seasons even if we live in towns. Recently on a morning walk in Leatherhead I saw a wren on the brambles. Such a tiny bird. I stood and watched it for a short time before it flew off about its own business.
We can notice the movement of our arms and legs, the sensations created by walking on different surfaces. We can also pay attention to the sound of our feet on a gravel path or the feeling of a sharp stone through the soles of our shoes. Perhaps we hear the snap of a twig underfoot.
The more we practise, the more we notice how intrusive thoughts force their way into our mind and that’s okay. The only aim of our mindful activity is to keep bringing our thoughts back to the activity and to be mindful of it.
Mindfulness is not meditation or hypnosis but here at my clinic in Leatherhead I often find that helping people to become mindful in their everyday life can be a great benefit especially for those who suffer from anxiety and overthinking.
Are your summer holidays ruined because you are afraid to fly, is your choice of holiday destination limited because of your phobia. Here at Leatherhead hypnotherapy in Surrey I see many clients who have a flying phobia.
This can vary in severity, some clients’ just panic and can only catch their flight if they take medication or self medicate on alcohol. On one occasion the fear was so severe that the client had refused to get on the plane and turned back at the airport, losing all of their holiday money.
Fear of flying can have its roots in the memory of a bad flight with turbulence etc or from learned behaviour if as a child their parents were afraid to fly. The newspapers and TV reports of plain crashes can add to people’s fear and we have all seen the images of 9/11 many times. Even films can add to people’s fear.
One of my clients who came here to Leatherhead could remember a very bumpy flight when she was aged 10, on the plane next to her was a nun who spent the whole flight praying and saying her rosary, this added to the young child’s fear.
Now as an adult she could only get on the plane after several large drinks and spends the first day of her holiday recovering from a hangover and repeats this pattern on her return journey. After just one session of hypnotherapy she flew with her family on a day trip to Lapland.
Recently a client came to me here in Surrey, her husband had booked an amazing trip to Mexico for their 25th wedding anniversary, not only did she dread the flight but was extremely afraid of the animals they may see in the hot climate.
She only had two weeks before her holiday, so we worked on her fear of flying and also did some work on the fear of animals. She came to see me again last week. She had recovered from her fear of flying enough to actually enjoy the flight and had even slept on the way home. During her amazing trip she had been photographed holding a parrot and had actually stroked a snake. She still has a residual fear of dogs, which we are working on.
Many clients come for treatment when they have to fly alone for the first time. Hypnotherapy can help them reduce the fear and put them in control of the situation.
Why let fear of flying top you enjoying your holiday. Contact me today to find out how hypnotherapy can help you overcome that fear, so that the journey comes an enjoyable part of the holiday.
The weather here in Leatherhead has been very cold and snowy. Many activities have been cancelled and schools closed. This is just the type of unusual event that can throw us of track with our resolutions.
Whether we plan to get fit or lose weight, even stop smoking can be derailed by unexpected events often outside of our control. If we are stranded at the train station on our way home from work or our journey on the motorway takes three times longer than planned, the pie, pasty or chocolate bar is more tempting than usual.
The visit to the gym is cancelled because of the snow or our daily walk is cut short because the paths and pavements are so icy. It is very easy at this point to give up. Maybe your weight loss has stopped or even crept back up a pound or two. The motivation to exercise can be harder to kick-start after an enforced break.
Here at Leatherhead hypnotherapy I tell my clients to see that these events are not a failure in their new lifestyle or plan but a chance to kick start the process again.
Using hypnosis we can reprogram the subconscious to see a set back not as something that has ruined everything so that we have now failed but an opportunity to remind ourselves of our long term goals and how important being fit and healthy is to us.
Weight loss in particular can be a series of pit falls. No sooner have we eaten all of the Christmas chocolate than along comes Valentine’s Day, followed by Mothering Sunday quickly followed by the chocolate festival that is Easter. However much we tell our families not to buy us chocolate and sweets some of them still arrive, accompanied by such goodies as Pancakes on Shrove Tuesday, Simnel cake. The list is endless.
If we are going to lose weight and keep it off then we have to learn to deal with these pitfalls. One piece of cake, a chocolate or a piece of Easter egg is not going to cause us to put all the weight back on that we have lost. Eat it and enjoy it then give the rest away. Share it with friends, family and work colleagues but enjoy a small indulgence yourself. Denying yourself any treats will turn you into a martyr and eventually you will break out and over indulge. Then you will decide that you are hopeless and give up all together.
I don’t tell my clients here at Leatherhead hypnotherapy that they can eat cake and chocolate every day, after all a treat is not a treat if we have it every day, but once in a while take the cake or chocolate sit down in peace and quiet and savour the flavour. You will find it easier to carry on eating healthily, and get back into the routine of doing your favourite exercise when the cold and the snow have gone.
Contact me to see how hypnotherapy can help you.